3 C’s Personal Inventory of Emotionally Intelligent Leaders

July 10, 2018
July 10, 2018 Sandy Horton

3 C’s Personal Inventory of Emotionally Intelligent Leaders

Emotionally Intelligent Leaders Know How to Manage Stress, Emotions and Perspectives for Performance Effectiveness. Are you one of them? Emotionally intelligent leaders understand and entrench this outlook in all aspects of their lives. They embody this practice and live a more balanced, positive and fulfilling life. It is this perspective and outlook that determines your results.

The importance of becoming an emotionally intelligent leader has been scientifically researched and proven. Emotional intelligence takes your personal leadership to the next level and helps you achieve the results you truly want personally and professionally.

According to Bushe (2012)

“leaders need to be able to observe themselves, step back from interactions that push their buttons, and see what is really going on in themselves”

(p. 41). Emotionally intelligent leaders start with having a different type of conversation with themselves and others. Unlike many leaders who will simply work harder doing the same old things such as calling for more meetings to resolve repeated problems or in engaging with people in the same manner as before while forgetting how their leadership impacts these results, both positively and/or negatively. Emotionally Intelligent leaders learn to ask different questions and actively listen for a reply. They learn quickly that their personal story directs how they respond and the actions it evokes.

How many times have you truly tried to do something differently but to be triggered into a negative reaction you didn’t want? Emotionally intelligent leaders learn how to be aware of those triggers and manage them with greater successful results. Whether you are an owner of a business, leader within an organization you too can learn and grow your emotional intelligence by applying these 3C’s personal inventory template questions. Consider the following:

Communicate: How do I know that others understand what I am saying?
Collaborate: How am I building strong relationship with others?
Connect: How have I actively listened to understand others? And
in how have I balanced my needs with that of others?

Emotional intelligence goes deeper than these questions. I am suggesting here that if you take a few minutes to consider the importance and need for enhancing or becoming an emotionally intelligent leader you will greatly improve these odds – and achieve your goals. Could you imagine having stronger relationships? Less conflict and/or misunderstanding both personally and professionally?

Research has shown that Emotional Intelligence can “help us understand what is happening around us socially, politically, see what is needed by others and to see how we interpret things and challenge our ways of thinking about things, handling stress, being aware of potential cultural difference and it’s impact on communication, dealing with stress in productive ways and in figuring out how to be that kind of person others want to be around” (Stein and Howard, 2011). Beyond this, there has been much research done on the ROI for being a emotionally intelligent leader such as, increased sales, decreased attrition rates and higher performing employees to name a few benefits. It is worth the journey and self-growth to become more emotionally intelligent.

Test the 3 C’s personal inventory over the next week or so by simply evaluating yourself while seeking input from others. At the end of this process review and reflect what you see.

EQi and EQi 360 assessments are available though www.ubuntustratedge.com.
Written by Sandra J Horton
Chief Leadership Officer – Ubuntu StratEdge